I touched only briefly on the properness a man should have in my previous post “Feminists will hate me!” when I referred to men opening doors and walking on the correct side of a lady. In case you are wondering which is the correct side to walk on… it’s the side nearest the traffic, crowd, etc. to protect her. So, when you cross a street you might even need to switch sides! Yes sir, it might take you a whole couple of extra steps! haha (Note to the Ladies: There is nothing wrong with changing the side for him! I do this all the time, and the men who have ever walked down a street with me know that. I have no problem with taking a men gently by the arm and pulling him onto the outside of the sidewalk. Then I giggle and smile, and let him know that’s his side! 😉 They never mind… I promise.)
Now onto more about men and their place. Don’t worry guys, this is not a man-bashing blog! I am quite fond of the male species, personally… and most women I know are equally as much. Not to say that we don’t have our complaints, as you do about us. 🙂 Where was I? Ah yes, onto you men…
I have a question: When did men lost their “real man” card, and call it “I have my man card”? What do I mean? Well, it used to be that “real men” were a breed where what was important to the were: honor, love, respect, protecting, providing, going out of their way for a cause or purpose or a person. Nowadays for a man to have his “man card” the importance behind that card tends to be things more along the lines of: Not letting a woman have control, staying independent and single as long as possible, dressing sloppily because you don’t care what anyone else thinks, etc. Listen men… I know that a lot of this is the fault of women trying to be so independent themselves that it ends up being a competition. And for that, I apologize for the whole women population! Now, please forgive us all – you’ve been officially asked for forgiveness – and take back your place, where you belong.
Where is that, you ask? As head of the household (aka Man of the house), spiritual leader, protector, confidant, lover, provider, knight in shining armor… it’s where we really do want you!!! Ahh, I see images of Cary Grant holding his woman protectively and seductively at the same time! SWOON!!
What makes a man? Now there’s a question!! I think it’s awful how society has made men. No longer do they want to openly give a compliment, in fear of a sexual harassment lawsuit. And men are trying to be so “sensitive” and “in-touch with their feminine side”…. who wants a man to be that sensitive!? Besides, what most men think of as women’s emotional needs are not right anyhow, so please be a man! When did men start being expected to be “good shoulders to cry on” and overly empathetic?? Ladies, that’s what your girlfriends are for! Men are supposed to be the masculine predators, not a super-sensitive she-man-thing! Yes, even still now though guys are called on as bug-squashers!! Why, because they are still deep-down supposed to be the warriors, duh! Guys… grow your chest hair back! (Unless you’re a model and need a cleanly shaven chest, guys we kinda like it! It’s sexy! Now, not too much… no hair sweaters! Eeeww!) Don’t you know that George Clooney is the new Cary Grant… guys, take a look, and follow by two great examples! I know of a time when men were taught impressive penmanship, an wrote so beautifully it seems almost like art. When they wore a coat to dinner… just because it was dinner. Men were taught to work hard, and excel, and they took pride in their work. There was an old-fashioned consideration for others, especially women. It is considered just as much of a compliment for a man to be called a gentleman, as it is for a woman to be referred to as a lady. Now though, it seems that men don’t care for how they come across!
On second thought, maybe the lack of “manhood” is not all women’s fault. Maybe it’s a lack of strong male role models from simple definitions of masculinity. The same goes for femininity with women. All those soft men and hard women ways that media put out are completely backwards! Our society desperately needs to recover some essential sense of man & woman.
…wow, now that’s a mouthful!
Not every change in the male image in current society is wrong though… please realize that I am making a point. I adore that men are now more involved with the families, and that it is now more public than ever about protection women & children against violence in the homes due to overbearing & controlling men. “Real men” do not over-step their boundaries!!! Ladies – NEVER FORGET THAT!!! If a man ever touches a woman or child inappropriately or meanly… HE IS NOT A MAN!!! True manly virtues are just that; virtuous.
Let me summarize in one short paragraph: Men… be proud of being a man! Yes, even though it means that you let women go through doors before you, speak at meetings before you, have their orgasm before you. Stand tall and know that we appreciate you when you are “the real man” you should be. Yes, us ladies want a “real man”; the masculine real man who shows us respectable protective chivalry in public, and the strong predator in …. 😉 you get my drift.
Sonya… She Idealist