A major difference between idealism and realism is merely the way that those people look at things; their perspective. If you can get yourself to find a new perspective to happenings and things in life, you can change your whole attitude. That my friend is a huge step towards being happy! (Which is what this blog is all about by the way… bringing idealism & happy back into the world… just in case you forgot. hahaha) 😉
When it comes to photography (I’m a photographer for those of you who don’t know that… http://www.sonyaphotographer.com), taking a picture from a different angle (or perspective) makes ALL the difference for an amazingly captured shot. When you are looking at something in your life that doesn’t look so great, or even looks absolutely horrible, maybe you simply need to find a new perspective. Like a detective would do in a case attempting to be solved, try looking at it from every possible angle you can imagine. When you run out of angles… ask someone else for their perspective. Sometimes things are much harder to see when you’re stuck “inside” of them. Seeing it from someone’s perspective on the “outside” of the issue may shed new light on it and help you find that new angle to see it from.
One thing that always marvels me is the way children have such an untainted view of things. So very black and white; un-grayed by life’s stressful clouds. Sometimes we add our own stress and negative junk onto/into life’s situations ourselves, out of habit of being stressed out or from left-over emotions negative situations. From someone who has been in many “negative situations” in my life, hear me out. Grey clouds sucks! Golly gee… think of those days full of nothing but gloomy grey skies and how even that can dampen a gleeful mood. Who wants that constantly over them? Heck, who wants that even every once in a while over them?! Sometimes things truly can be as black and white as they were when we were a child… before life got in the way.
Here is my challenge for you today: Try simply stepping sideways, out of your worry. It’s difficult at times, and believe it or not, YOU yourself will likely be your biggest obstacle to push out of your way. YOU will be the one fighting to hold onto your worry and your stress. Why? Because it’s comfortable. You’re used to it being there. As said so eloquently in My Fair Lady – in my analogy, using it pertaining to stress and worry – perhaps you’ve “become accustomed to [it’s] face.”
Even in the Bible we find in Matthew 11:25-30 that Jesus urges those who seem to constantly struggle to find rest in Him… His Yoke is easy, he says. His Burden is light. Speaking of Yokes (a tool, hitching at least two oxen together side-by-side), you could and should allow your friends to also be there for you. God uses people to do His work… and He can and will work through those around you, so allow it. They (your friends) want to be there for you, they want to help. So, I urge you, when you are having a grey day, or week, or month, or year…. reach up to God, and reach out to those around you to help you in finding that new perspective, which will in turn lighten your worry and stress, lightening your load.
What have I done on this point #4 Find a new perspective?
Well, I have dropped all pride I have down at my feet, and have opened up to my friends and those around me. I have allowed others to mentor and help me in the areas that I need new perspective, and a different set of eyes then my own. They have helped me greatly in those areas, to see what I may not have had my eyes opened to without their gentle and loving push, showing me it’s right there in front of me. Or as some friends will put it… “Hey stupid, it’s right there!” hahaha Those friends truly love you!!! 😀 There is nothing wrong, I have learned this past year, allowing people to help you. Just as much as it brings you joy to help others, you rob others of joy when you don’t allow them to do for you sometimes.
Side note: Never stop doing for others! This world revolves in a circle, and so should giving. “What goes around comes around.”
–> Now I ask you to tell me what you have done, or what can you do, to find a new perspective? I cannot wait to hear your stories, ideas, suggestions.
Until tomorrow, my friends… I bid you adieu.
🙂 Sonya… She Idealist.