Important Things #11 ~ Face your fears

Yowza dow dow… I have to face my fears!?  Hmm… I suppose for the sake of this blog, I will.  LOL

Fear is a very powerful force and usually a stronger motivator that happiness.  If someone has a strong desire to do or attain something, yet an even stronger fear not to… guess which wins?  Fear.

Why is this?  Because there is a stronger negative association to that thing than there is positive, so the negative wins.   So how do we fix this, and enable yourself to face your fears?  It’s actually very simple.  You have to affix more positive associations with that thing than negative.  I  know this may sound strange.  It is doable.  I will explain how.

You must focus your attention, instead of how bad something might be, on how bad NOT doing it will be!  Focus on how bad it could be if you don’t!!  Use fear to your advantage!  Also, focus on how great something could be to do it.  Change what you link fear to… it takes repeated practice, but it IS doable.  You can change from being fearful of potential failure, and because of that fear, NOT doing something.  Force yourself to fear how bad it could and will be if you don’t do it… how much you will miss out on… how horrible it will be if others don’t see you trying at all… use every negative association you can conjure up to make the fear of NOT attempting your slave!  You have to force yourself to focus the fear where you want it, in order to change your mind and your behavior into trying being the only way and the only option for gaining pleasure over pain.

QUESTION: What is something that you know you should do, yet have been fearful of?  Think about what pain or fears you have associated with that thing which has kept you from doing it.

CHALLENGE: Make 2 lists for the above thing you need to do.  List 1: All of the great things that COULD come about if you do it.  List 2: All of the absolutely horrible things that could come about if you DON’T do it.

You do not have to share the specific thing with me publicly that you have been struggling with.  These are very personal things in our hearts.  I want to stress to you that you have more control over your mind that you think!!!  Do not let anyone, especially yourself, keep you from doing something you know you need to or want to do.  YOU CAN DO IT!!!!  Change the way you think, and get our of your rut of not attempting it.  How horrible is complacency!  Make your 2 lists at this very moment!!  Immediately start working on rewiring your thinking and putting fear to work for you, to motivate you to push and do it in fear of not attempting!

Have an amazingly blessed day of action!

Sonya… She Idealist.

By Sonya Mae

I am a very unique breed of person. If you ask my mother, she would say that I am a very old spirit who should have been born in the 40's or 50's. I love old womens' fashion...when women dressed like women! If you ask my daddy, he would say I am the biggest dressed up tom-boy he knows, who is way too into cars and climbing trees! I was a ballet dancer and choreography major in college until 20yrs old when I retired due to a neck injury. Besides still dancing through ballroom, latin & swing styles, my current passions are cars (seriously...I took 4 yrs of auto shop, and drool at the sound of a loud engine rumble!), fashion & interior design, and creating moments that last!

I love helping people find their strengths! Finding their happiness and their smile! (Everyone looks amazing when they smile!) I love showing people how to be genuinely happy by simply changing their mindsets and attitudes. I do these things in as many ways as I can, using many mediums. As well showing people how they too can do something they may not have thought they could. there's a will, there's a way!

I am a mother of two (2) amazing children, who make my life beyond blessed, and I always do my best for them. I love to spend as much time with them as I can and want them always to be learning... I am very proud of them! And, GOD comes first & foremost in my life!!!

I am...
Sonya Mae aka SheIdealist

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